Love is not always a two-way street. Sometimes, it rips you to shred with every breath you take. Vulnerability is not for the faint at heart. Being fooled, laughed at, and ridiculed is not easy. You tell yourself you are beautiful, but the rejection confirms, you are ugly and a waste of space.
The person you love no longer opens doors for you, they stop doing things because they were thinking of you, and I love you seem to no longer exist. The touching stops, the chemistry is no longer there, or the passion they once had for you has subsided. You feel as if your life is spiraling out of control. You began to think you are in a loveless relationship or if you are starting to over-analyze everything.
Your mind starts to wander in 1000 different directions. You become sad, lost, confused, hurt, enraged, broken, and stressed out. Should you stay in this relationship, or are you one foot out of the door?
They say you are a reflection of your spouse. If your spouse is always at the top of his or her game (hair, nails, clothes, shoes) and you are not, your spouse is not in love with you. A person in love would never allow the person they love to feel worthless, tired, or ugly.
As the hours become days, weeks, months, and years you start missing being loved, cherished, respected, and like a very rare fragile diamond. You want to do everything in your power to get things back on track.
So what do you do? Shake off all the emotions, and be authentically you. If the person you are with can no longer appreciate you, it’s time to let them go. A relationship cannot define who you are unless it’s a relationship with God.
It’s up to you to change the narrative. Know your worth, your happiness, who you are again. It’s time to take back your power.